Latest Update On "A"

I think this is one of Sugars beautiful graphics, but i can't read the siggy...with thanx!

Thank-you so much for all your comments, it is much appreciated...I rang the hospital a few times during the night. At one point "A" had to have more meds to make him comfortable as he was in a lot of pain, the other couple of times i rang he was sleeping. This afternoon "?" and i went along to visit "A". When we got there his friend "E" was there, she was with him when "A" got stabbed (thats another story) The knife that was used was a long kitchen knife. The knife had just missed his right kidney, but damaged the vestles to the kidney. He had a cat scan yesterday and another this afternoon half hour before when we arrived it was 3:30pm. The scan is to make sure the blood clot had not moved as it could go to the heart or the brain. The left side of his face is battered and bruised and he has a small knife mark around his neck where one of the men tried to cut his throat.

"A" told us what had happened and why and names of the people who where involved, but i can't write about it here for obvious reasons. All i can tell you is it was'nt "A" who caused the trouble..."A" is lucky to be alive. I'm still worried about him because he's not out of danger yet.

Later, "SH" phoned "A" (he has a phone/TV/Radio next to his bed...all the mod-cons) to find out what the cat scan showed and when they are too opperate, this was around 6:30pm, but he had'nt heard anything yet.

Its the first time i've been in thewards of the new hospital, as i said before theres a phone/TV/Radio at the side of each bed. The TV costs £3.50p per day. For me to phone "A" it would cost me 20p per minute. I know its expensive, but to speak to someone you care about, i think it is worth it just to keep in touch and feel closer. I hav't used that phone yet, i have only phoned the ward phone.

Thats all the news i have at the moment, i will let you know of any more developments when i know more...Best Wishes to you all.

 

 

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This is the worst day of our lives...

with thanx to Donna for this lovely graphic...

This week has had its ups and downs again, more downs than ups. "?" has finished painting the hallway, only a couple of odds and ends still to do. "A" came by Monday afternoon to let us know that he has to appear in court again in  4 months time.

I went along to see my GP on Tuesday about a lump i had found and he refered me to hospital. In the afternoon i got a phone call from my Aunt "D" she told me my cousin "M" had passed away Monday night. I then started to think about my own situation which made me feel a bit anxious for a while, but i soon calmed myself down. I got my appoinment letter today for screening which is for next Friday 2/5/08 at King Georges Hospital.

Still no news of my replacement washing machine, i will have to give them ring about it on Monday.

The men  from the council came to fix the leaking pipe and they found another leak which they said they would report it for me, i think i will ring up about that too, to make sure its been reported. A surveyor was supposed to have come from the council the same day, but he never turned up...No change there wth the council.

I thought i would leave this to last as i was'nt sure whether to write about it or not, but i've got to lighten the weight and get it off my chest as i'm worried about what has happened to "A"... "L" phoned me this morning with disturbing news of "A" . 4 men had falsefully stopped his car and smashed all the windows in with baseball bats then dragged him from the car and beat him up stamped on his head and stabbed "A" in the back which just missed his kidney. This happened last night, he is in hospital. He had internal bleeding which the Drs had stopped ( something mentioned about clotting, not sure wht it means ) and he will be having a cat-scan and an opperation tomorrow. My daughter "SH" went to visit him this afternoon, she said hes in a bad way and sedated. I don't know what has led to this to have happened as yet, theres probably more to this than what we've been told. God, i do hope he will be alright. You hear about this kind of thing happening to other people, but when it happens to your own, it feels like your in a dream or something. What ever it is they were out to kill him. This happened in our area close to home. I was told the police had taken the 4 men to the police station from the scene of the incedent.

This is the worst day of our lives, i would rather "A" be back in prison than whats happened to him now. I don't know if "?" will be around for the day tomorrow, i know we will go to visit him if he is.

Best Wishes to you all...   

 

Decor and Birthday...

Hi Everyone...

I hope your all keeping well. I tried to forward the Angel message which i received from Jan-Serendapity today, but it came back to me, when i tried to send and i could'nt resend. I think it was because i added a couple of addresses that was'nt recognised.

I have been quite busy these last few weeks helping "?" decorating, well, making tea and clearing up. "ST" has been here all week too helping "?" doing the painting in the Hallway. I had someone from the council here last week about my kitchen wall where the water is coming through. The water is coming from the outside and penetrating the wall from the bathroom waste-pipe which has been repaired, but am still waiting for the down pipe from the bathroom to be replaced. Once that wall is dried out it can be painted again.

"?"  is still having his ups and down moments and i've had pressure pains in my head and neck (chiari) and other aches and pains that go with chiari last week, i think its because i've been lifting things and bending while helping "?".

"Z" has been here a couple of days during the week. Tuesday was my birthday and "Z" was pampering me. She would'nt let me wash-up after dinner. She made me sit down and she done all the washing-up bless her! In the morning i bought some cakes for all of us for later. Anyway, later in the afternoon "Z" came in the lounge with a doughnut with 2 candles on the plate...lol. It was so cute and she had drawn little banners and stuck them on the walls and doors. "?","Z" and "ST" had planned this between them while out in the garden earlier. I had no idea they were doing this, i must say  i did enjoy my day. "A" came by with "L" and "J" for while earlier.

"Z" and "ST" were here yesterday for the day, "?" left early and "L" came to pick "ST" up and took "Z" home too as she lives close by her.

I ordered a new washing machine from my catologue last week, it arrived Thursday. When "?" opened the door up all the rubber inside was ruffled up and it looked like it had been used, so i phoned the catologue and they are arranging for a replacement to be sent out this week.

I spent last Sunday with Aunt "D" she is a lot better now and it was nice to spend time with her. She was telling me about my cousin "M" who is seriously ill, which i mentioned in my last entry. I'm not going to go on about it as it makes me feel down as well as my readers.

Well, thats all my news for now and i hope you have all had a great weekend and i hope this following week will be good for you all...Best Wishes to you all.

                                                                       

 

Confusing Week

Hi everyone...

I hope your all keeping well. "?" came in for an hour this morning then left. Well, quite a bit has happened since i last wrote here. The surveyor from the council came by on Thursday to look at the outside of my kitchen wall where the water is seeping through. He said he will come back the next day as he has'nt got any ladders with him so he could look at the down pip from the bathroom, which he did do so on Friday last. He said he will get someone a long to repair what he thinks is a leeking pipe from the bath which the water is penetrating the wall from the outside each time the water is let out of the bath. I don't know how long i will have to wait for this to be done, i know he told me seven days, it might be earlier or even later...you never know with the council.

Last Tuesday evening, "?" came over bad and collaped at his friends house. He told him he was half conscious and mumbling for almost 25 minutes. He did'nt call and ambulance. "?" did tell the GP the following day when he had his appointment. He told the GP about what had happened to him and that he was sweating so bad and what else he felt and that he is very unsure of himself. The GP is refering him back to see the heart specialist again, i don't know how long that will take, being the hospitals are bursting at the seams.

This has happened twice before to "?" to my knowledge. The second time i called the ambulance. "?" had gone to the bathroom, then there was a loud thump noise i called out to him and got no answer, so i went into the bathroom and he was laying half in the bath and half conscious and mumbling a load of nocensence that i could'nt understand. At first i thought he had a stroke or something. I called the ambulance and while they were on their way "?" started to try to get himself out of the bath. With my help he leaned on me and manouvered himself to the bedroom where he fell on the bed. The ambulance men came and took him to the hospital, i went along with him. He was examined, his ecg, b/p ect...was all out and they wanted to keep him in, but "?" would'nt stay in hospital. He went along to the GP the next day and refered him to the heart specialist. Thats when he first found out he had heart disease. This Bipola thing he has don't help non either, hes a wreck the best of times. "?" had 3 stents inserted into his heart two years ago last May and was due to go back to see the consultant around that time, but he has'nt had any letters to be reviewed.

"A" phoned last Tuesday, he said he was coming home Friday last. I phoned "L" ( Friday evening ) to see if "ST" was coming round on Saturday as normal, she said he was, then i asked if she had heard from "A" she said he was there around 2:30pm and he went along with her to collect "J" from school and he stayed for half hour then left.

Saturday, we picked "ST" up, then "A popped in for an hour, he seems to have quiten down and put on a bit of weight. He took "ST" with him when he left and went to pick up "J" as they were going bowling with "A" ."?" and i had a bet on the Grand National. My horse "d'Argent" fell so did "?" horse, he had "Simon". Later, "SH", "Z" and "SH" new manfriend "ST" (he has the same name as our "ST" i can see this is going to be confusing) came by on their way home from having a meal at Harvesters.

I phoned aunt "D" this morning to let her know that i will be round next Sunday to visit her for the day, she was telling me my cousin "M" ( not my cousin's wife "M" i've mentioned before, this one is my cousin "M") has got cancer, she had it before, but it has returned to her bones and it don't sound too good for her. She is the sister of my cousin Floss in Canada whoses other sister Renie who lived in Seatle had died of cancer a couple of years ago, the one i mentioned about who worked for Englebert Humperdink...Thats Renie in the pic below with her husband "T" and Eng...

It always seems to be bad news that comes my way, perhaps something nice will happen one day aye...I will have to leave it here as "?" will return around 5pm and i've to get some tea done ect... So, you all enjoy the rest of your weekend and i hope you all have a good week ahead of you...Best Wishes to one and all...

Tags: Heart Disease, Bipola/Manic Depression

Kitchen and Bathroom

with thanx to chissie for this beatiful graphic...

"?" has finished tiling around my kitchen worktop and straightened a few other bits and pieces that needed doing. He has put my portable TV on the wall for me in the kitchen too so i can watch or listen too while cooking ect... My kitchen is small, but its looking real cosy now and i don't mind being in my kitchen now, before i hated it so much. I need to get some new blinds for my window and door and half curtains...cafe type! I am really pleased with how it has turned out...Trouble is now, i have got a problem on my wall at the side of my window and ceiling above my sink. The ceiling has got a damp patch and water is seeping through a crack in the wall, tis started to happen when we had a down poor of rain. I have told the council and they are sending a surveyor along next Thursday to look at it. "?" has worked really hard getting the walls painted and this happens! After "?" had left i then got on with a few chores mostly in the evenings.

"?" is going to have a rest before starting to paint my hallway and landing as he keeps coming over bad in himself. He told me he wants to get as much decorating done as possible, because he thinks hes in serious trouble health-wise mentally and physically. I think this is another reason hes keeping himself busy as well as the problem with "A" so he don't give himself time to think about things, he seems to be on the go all the time, like rushing. He seems to be on a high, then hes low again. This is a bipola symptom.

I told "?" to leave the work, but he says hes got to get things done. I think hes done too much already "?" has to see the GP tomorrow, i told him to tell him how hes feeling when he sees the DR.

"L", "ST" and "J" came round last Wednesday to speak to "A" when he rang. I sent "Z" atext message last night to let her know i was thinking of her, she will be pleased when she notices it...lol

Saturday after "?" took me shopping, we went to pick "ST" up for the day, later "L" came round with "J" to speak to "A" on the phone when he rang at 2pm. "L" told us he might be home sometime next week, i'm not sure about that myself, because they mess with your head in there and say all sorts of things to build their hopes up, then let them down. I've always told "A" don't expect anything, then you won't be disappointed.

I have come to terms with "A" situation, but i am worried for him when he goes to court 21/4/08. I don't know what this is for, because no-one tells me anything. I got a letter from "A" last week, but i will wait to see if he does come out this week, if not i will write to him.

A surveyor came round this afternoon ( nothing to do with my kitchen wall) its because the council will be putting in a new toilet and bath and he is sending someone round to look at my window frames, because the're not sealed and the're drafty. also, replacing the waste-pipe from the toilet, the outside thing that goes to the sewer and above the roof. He said the council have stopped installing new kitchens ( just as well "?" fitted my kitchen for me aye! ) the man said he don't know when the bathroom will be done, but he will let me know roughly when soon.

In 1982 i had people from the council come in and measure my kitchen to be fitted with units, but was told several times it has been put back and would be done the next year and so on, all this was said time and time again year after year, but nothing was ever done...( probably lined their own pockets aye! ) Like i said before, i'm happy with what i've got and in anycase what i've never had i won't miss!

Well, thats all for now. I hope you all have a good week, best wishes to you all...Be Happy!

  

Easter Egg and Pie N Mash...Mmm!

I hope you all had a lovely Easter. "?" came in for an hour this morning, then "L" came by to drop "ST" off as he did'nt go to visit "A" Sunday, because he was'nt on the VO and he is classed as an adult to visit that prison. I did'nt go after all, just as well really as i did'nt have the proper ID, they wanted ID with photos on and i hav'nt got anything, i did'nt bother getting my bus pass, bacause i go everywhere by car. If i had gone i would have had to wait outside.

 

"ST" stayed with me while "L" and "J" went to visit him. "ST" and i had a pleasant day together. I made pie and mash with parsley liquor for our dinner, thats what "ST" wanted for dinner Mmm! that picture is making me hungry and later he ate his Easter Egg i bought him, we both watched TV most of the day untill "L" and "J" returned later.

 

"L" and "J" returned around 5:30pm, "? returned around the same time for an hour. "L" told us the security is much tougher than Pentonville where "A" was before. she said they looked in her mouth, ears, hair and normal searched her and she had remove her coat and leave it outside and she could only take in change for the vending machine in the visiting room. "L" said she was worried incase she got lost on the way there, but she said she found the place easier than she thought she would..."L" said, "A" is ok!

"SH" phoned last night from her friends house in Maldon, Essex. She said shes going to cancel AOL when she reurns home today and going over to sky TV and broadband. Sky have got a good deal going at the moment, so shes going to get that. I was going to go back to AOL myself, but "SH" said shes having so much trouble with them and told me not too! After all i'm not getting any probs with sky, so why rock the boat. I've only had a diagnostic problem and had to reset my modem which i corrected myself. And normal probs while sky was altering their email section awhile back now, which was'nt too bad at the time. And i enabled pop3 on my email section. Other than that all is ok!

"?" came by this morning for an hour then left and will be returning later. Oh yeah! "?" got most of the tiles done around my kitchen work-top on Saturday. He said he will do the rest after Easter. Once its all done i will take a photo of it. I can't believe i've got a kitchen at long last!

Well, thats all for now, so best wishes to one and all and i hope you all have a great week ahead of you...Be Happy!